Divorce, child custody conflict can put a damper on the holidays

Ending a marriage in Massachusetts can no doubt be hard on both of the spouses involved, but their minor children can also find the process difficult, especially emotionally. The holidays may be particularly tough for the family to deal with following divorce. Still, parents who are going through the divorce process and tackling matters such as child custody can be proactive about how they will handle the holidays with their children going forward.

When spouses part ways, they may understandably be excited to live independently and prefer not to see each other again. However, if they can get along, it may behoove them to reunite during the holiday season each year just so that their children can spend the holidays with both parents simultaneously. This can make the children’s post-divorce holiday experiences much more pleasant.

Psychologists say that children of divorce can feel better about their situations if both parents are on the exact same side — specifically, the children’s side. This can happen only if the parents are willing to respect one another. Unfortunately, sometimes divorced parents badmouth the other party, and this ultimately harms the children since they feel that they are being negatively spoken about as well. After all, the children generally value and identify with each parent.

The most ideal situation when it comes to divorce and child custody is for parents to strive to achieve a resolution at the negotiation table or through mediation. This will allow them to determine the best arrangement for them and for the children, without further court intrusion. It will additionally enable them to practice working out their differences and resolving conflicts early on, as they will need to do this in the years following their separation. An attorney in Massachusetts can help an individual who is dealing with child custody and visitation to pursue an outcome that pleases him or her while most importantly reflecting the best interests of the children.